Doris Schöneberg

Parenting Coach, Spiritual Guide, and Shamanic Practitioner

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My aunt and uncle – Geoff and Lorraine.

I express my appreciation and immense gratitude for the wonderful and kind people that you are and for stepping into the role of my parents. Geoff, with your quiet strength of character and sense of fairness, you lead by example. Laney, you truly inspire me with your unwavering faith and service to God. Your love of nature and all God’s creations has been an enormous influence in my life. Spending week ends and holidays on the farm when I was growing up provided me with a childhood filled with amazing memories and strong sense of family. It still gives me a sense of “coming home” when I visit now. Thank you for being who you are and for providing so much stability in my life….

Affirmations

Hello again to all my old, current and soon to be new friends!

Today I want to share affirmations with you. I practice affirmations on a daily basis and, done correctly, they really work! A good friend lent me a book by Diana Cooper and she explains them so simply and effectively. Start doing them in your daily life,  and see and experience the results you get!

The more energy and emphasis we put into our affirmations, the more deeply they enter our belief system.

The Universe literally rearranges itself to give you what you believe.

To make affirmations, speak your words with energy and intent.

Make sure your affirmations contain only positive words.

Affirmations must be in the present tense.

Effective affirmations are simple.

Affirmations need to be constantly repeated.

Remember to affirm what you want to be as if you are already there.

This is a quick route to be where you want to be.

Then act as if it has already become your reality.

 

Makes you think, doesn’t it?

I would really love to hear about your experiences and results when you have done them!

Until next time……

Love, light and HUGE hugs,

Doris

 

Gratitude List

Hello friends,

A few days ago I wrote about doing a list of “100 gratitudes”. I’ve just posted my first one and will do a few more every day until I reach 100. Why don’t we all do it together? You don’t have to share them with anybody unless you want to, but do them for yourselves! Just doing my first one has made such a difference in my life and I’m looking forward to doing the rest. Let the journey begin………!

Makes you think, doesn’t it?

Until next time………

Love and hugs,

Doris

1/100 Gratitudes

Dear Mom, thank you so much for being the person that you were. You were a single mom of 3 children, one of whom is deaf and who had to attend a special school far away from home. You had to move in with your parents and often worked 2 jobs to make ends meet because you had no support from our father. You did the best you could under the circumstances. I am the strong, loving, caring, independent person I am today because of the lessons I learned from you. I have a wonderful relationship with my children because I decided that I wanted a different relationship with them to the one I had with you.  For this, I thank you from the bottom of my heart and soul. Rest in peace Mom, lots of love and hugs, your daughter, Doris”.

My Mom

Good morning all,

What a beautiful morning we are having here on this sunny winter’s day in South Africa! The sun is shining, the birds are singing and I’m feeling totally at peace. You see, I received a message yesterday that I really needed to hear and the result will definitely go onto my list of gratitudes!

My whole life I believed that my relationship with my Mother was not what it should have been and I always felt closer to my maternal Grandmother. I remember that I was always comparing it, and was envious of, the loving and close relationships my friends had with their Mothers. My Mom has passed on so it was something I couldn’t discuss with her to try and understand it, and I felt stuck with feelings of resentment towards her because it was too late to “fix”.

After my message yesterday, I now want to say……

“Dear Mom, thank you so much for being the person that you were. You were a single mom of 3 children, one of whom is deaf and who had to attend a special school far away from home. You had to move in with your parents and often worked 2 jobs to make ends meet because you had no support from our father. You did the best you could under the circumstances. I am the strong, loving, caring, independent person I am today because of the lessons I learned from you. I have a wonderful relationship with my children because I decided that I wanted a different relationship with them to the one I had with you.  For this, I thank you from the bottom of my heart and soul. Rest in peace Mom, lots of love and hugs, your daughter, Doris”.

This realisation and learning has been sooo cathartic for me. I feel as though a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders and my growth has taken one HUGE leap!

I’m sharing this because I want the same for you. Get rid of any resentments you have been harbouring by changing the way you look at situations. “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change!” This will allow you to forgive, put it behind you and move on. I believe that life is made up of lessons we must learn from, in order to grow and be the best we can be, for ourselves and everyone around us!

Makes you think, doesn’t it?

Until next time…………

All my love and hugs,

Doris

 

One Hundred Gratitudes – The Joy of Saying “Thank You”

Hello again to all my old, current and soon to be new friends!

I found this on a site that I visit regularly and was originally penned by Dr Robert Holden. I’m sharing it with you because it was gratitude that led me on the path and journey I am travelling right now. Feelings of gratitude was my “wow” moment!

“One Hundred Gratitudes” is a journal exercise that invites you to reflect on your life, from past to present, and to record 100 entries of pure appreciation and thanksgiving. The goal is to compile a list of 100 experiences, relationships, places, people, books, songs,  pieces of art, events, adventures and other moments that you are truly grateful for. These “One Hundred Gratitudes” add up to one big “Thank You” for the miracle of existence. It is like a thank you letter to God.

There are a number of ways to do “One Hundred Gratitudes”. Some people compile their lists chronologically and others don’t follow a timeline; they just write what comes. Some people compile the list in one sitting. Personally, I recommend that you do it over several sittings, maybe compiling 10 to 15 entries at a time. Some people do “One Hundred Gratitudes” on their own; others do it with close friends or with their partners, for instance. Sharing your “One Hundred Gratitudes” is as powerful as compiling them.

The one key instruction that I ask you to follow is that for each entry you include a “what” and a “why.”  Here is a personal example from my list.

What: A book called Daily Guidance from Your Angels.

Why: This book is part of my daily routine. I am truly grateful to the author because it truly inspires me every day when I open it.  Whether I am asking a specific question or just want to read the message for that day, it reminds me to be an even more loving person and to enjoy my life even more!

The “why” is as important as the “what” because the goal isn’t just to create a list; it’s to recognize what it is you truly value and appreciate about being alive.

After the “One Hundred Gratitudes” is complete, I want to you to ask yourself :

What did I value about this exercise?

What did I learn about myself doing this exercise?  If you did it with someone else, reflect on what you learned from each other.

What did I learn about happiness doing this exercise? This exercise is a powerful meditation on happiness.

Ask yourself if this exercise will affect the way you live your life from now on. Will you do anything differently?

Hundred Gratitudes” is one of the exercises that I rate “most useful.” I can honestly say that everyone who does this exercise experiences huge value. It is a truly profound exercise.

“One Hundred Gratitudes” is fun to do, and it can be a real life-changer. Below is a list of seven common benefits to look for:

Undoing Lack. “One Hundred Gratitudes” literally helps you to change your perception of the world. Practicing gratitude is really a decision to give up all belief in lack. Through gratitude, you begin to see not just with the eyes, but with the heart.

Increased Well-Being. Doing “One Hundred Gratitudes” feels good. Gratitude is energy. It energizes you, it restores you, and it soothes your weariness.

Real Values. When you really master gratitude, it helps you to discern between what is important and what is not. You no longer complain about the little things with quite the same conviction. You can’t be bothered to sweat the small stuff. You remember the big picture. True gratitude helps you to tune in to your timeless values. It amplifies your conscious sense of purpose. It reveals the true meaning of life, for you.

Healing Perspective. Most people’s “One Hundred Gratitudes” are a full and frank inventory of their life’s most important moments. Gratitude doesn’t just cover what is positive; it covers what is significant. For that reason, many people include in their lists past mistakes, heartbreaks, illnesses, divorce, bereavement, failures, and dark nights of the ego. Gratitude helps you to focus on the “positives.”

Heart-Centered. Doing “One Hundred Gratitudes” will put you back in touch with your heart. Gratitude is a good excuse to show more love, to receive more love, and to be more yourself with everyone.

Conscious Connection. Practicing gratitude helps you to feel a greater sense of connection with people, with places, and with the present moment. People who do “One Hundred Gratitudes” say things like, “I am less self-centered now,” and “It got me over myself,’” and “I feel less independent and cut off from life.” It is impossible to be truly grateful and feel alone. Gratitude also promotes a greater sense of spiritual connection with yourself, with others, and with life as a whole.

Happiness NOW. At first, most people are a little daunted by the task of finding 100 things to be grateful for, but by the end they usually find it impossible to restrict it to only 100. Gratitude works in harmony with the Law of Attraction, which states that what you focus on is what you attract. Gratitude helps you to pay attention, and as your attention grows, so too does your sense of wonder and awe.

Thank you, thank you, thank you Dr Robert Holden!!

Makes you think, doesn’t it?

Until next time………

Would love you to share your thoughts and experiences once you have completed the exercise……! Let us all learn and inspire each other.

Lots of love, light and hugs,

Doris

 

 

Stay Positive

Hello all,

We’re in the process of relocating from South Africa to Canada! I’m sure all of you know just how stressful moving can be – especially to another country!!

We must sell our house and 2 motor cars without yet knowing what dates we will be leaving, because we are still waiting for our visas to come through. I set my own goal and timeline for a departure date, even though it is largely out of my hands at this point, (we are waiting for both the South African and Canadian Governments), and created a stressful and emotional situation for myself.  Being human, I had temporarily forgotten everything I have learned about being positive and having the correct affirmation and visualisations!

Staying true to my morning routine, I opened my ‘Daily Guidance from Your Angels” and this is the message I received……!

“The most helpful thing you can do in the face of hardship is to keep a positive attitude. There’s always some blessing within all circumstances, even if you can’t immediately identify it. By holding onto faith, you can elevate everyone around you, along with the situation itself.

A positive mind-set keeps the body relaxed, which in turn helps you think clearly and creatively during intense situations. Your bright outlook inspires others and may avert a cycle of downward-spiraling energy.

Vow to stay optimistic today no matter what. Always be honest about your thoughts and feelings, yet do call upon us angels and your higher self to gain the best perspective on every situation. In this way, you work through any upsetting emotions very quickly, keeping a high level of energy and a positive attitude.”

Thank you Doreen Virtue! Once again, the angels and the universe have come through for me!

My affirmation was that we would sell the cars and house for a certain price by the end of July and be in the air by mid August. What it should have been was that the cars and house ARE sold and my visualisation of the 3 of us sitting on the aircraft with feelings of appreciation and gratitiude for a positive outcome!

My stress levels are now non-existent and I am setting and achieving tasks one at a time, knowing and affirming that it will all work out in the correct time frame. This is another example of focusing on the right thing! You see, I was focusing on moving being stressfull and that is exactly what I created! What I should have been focusing on was achieving the tasks necessary for the move to go smoothly and uneventfully.

Makes you think, doesn’t it?

Until next time………

Love, light and hugs,

Doris

PS! Would love to hear your comments and experiences…..