Doris Schöneberg

Parenting Coach, Spiritual Guide, and Shamanic Practitioner

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Love, Growth and Gratitude

Good day to all my wonderful friends!

I want to meet and surround myself with people who walk their talk, who live their lives practicing unconditional love, gratitude for all that they have, who extend kindness toward their fellow man and just being nice to everyone they meet!

Let us all decide that today is the day we will begin to treat everyone who cross our paths (regardless of religious beliefs), exactly how we would like to be treated and see the response that we get! We must bear in mind that people are not their behaviour – they are so much more than that and they are doing the best they can with the resources they have available.

Let us see the good in them and perceive them as magnificent creations, capable of anything they set their minds to! Let us expand our resources and set examples of how living a life of growth and contribution can make such a difference to everything and everyone around us.   Let us ensure that all our intentions and actions come from a place of love and integrity. Let us be an inspiration to everyone we meet!

Start right NOW and let me know what results you get!

Makes you think, doesn’t it?

Until next time……..

Lots of love, light and hugs,

Doris

PS Would love some feedback from you……..

My Wish for You

Comfort on difficult days,

Smiles when sadness intrudes,

Rainbows to follow the clouds,

Laughter to kiss your lips,

Sunsets to warm your heart,

Hugs when spirits sag,

Beauty for your eyes to see,

Friendships to brighten your being,

Faith so that you can believe,

Confidence for when  you doubt,

Courage to know yourself,

Patience to accept the truth,

Love to complete your life.

Anonymous.

 

 

Religious vs Spiritual

Hello friends!

For a long time now I have questioned the difference between religion and spirituality. I have always considered myself to be more spiritual than religious without really understanding the difference. I only knew that “organised” religion always left a lot of my questions unanswered because I had come across so many religious people who didn’t walk their talk. I know none of us are perfect, we are all doing the best we can with the resources we have available, but knowing and understanding that didn’t help to fill the void I felt I had in my life,  Then I came across this article written by John N. Clayton and it was like a light bulb went on in my head!

I’m going to share portions of the article with you, because I know there are a lot of people out there who are going through exactly what I went through and asking the same questions I asked. My wish is that by sharing it with you will help to bring clarity and light into your life.

“Webster’s definition of religion is: “Any specific system of belief, worship, conduct, etc., involving a code of ethics and a philosophy.”

This may all sound rather mysterious and perhaps like a battle of semantics, but we would like to suggest that there is a major point to be made in the religion vs. spiritual area, and some dangers associated with it. A simple definition of religion is that religion is man’s attempt to reach God. Being spiritual is opening ourselves to God’s influence on our whole being. Let us draw some contrasts between these two definitions.

Religion focuses on what pleases man. Being spiritual focuses on what pleases God. Most of what we see religious people do in today’s world is the end product of what they think is appropriate to be religiously correct. Huge edifices are constructed, beautiful works of art created, beautiful music made, and marvelous words are said in the name of religion. People tend to judge churches by their size, location, and visibility in the community. A part of this judgment is how well the minister of the church entertains the membership. A good speaker can bring lots of people into the church as long as he does not offend and brings lots of humor and good feelings to his listeners. The mega churches of our day are groups that have learned this formula and do it well.  I found this kind of artificial atmosphere to be especially repulsive, and atheism was and is an attractive alternative to all of the religious materialism that swirls around us.

Religion involves emotions and externals while spirituality involves the whole being. Religion tends to tell people to react to their emotions and express them visibly. In today’s world, there is an emphasis on wearing things that  express our convictions and doing things that are ruled by our emotions. Preachers who can move people emotionally are looked up to, and religious services with great amounts of tears, emotional outbursts, and spirited responses are deemed to be the best. There are many problems with such approaches to God. One is that these services tend to produce huge peaks and valleys. A person is motivated to make a response by a capable preacher; and when the person is away from the positive reinforcement, they tend to crash. Another problem is that because the person is reacting emotionally to being in the service, their mind is not functioning on what is being taught. People like Jim Jones in Guyana, Marshall Applewaite in California, or David Koresh in Waco were able to get people to do incredible things which they certainly would not have done if they were not emotionally distracted.

Religion follows man’s standards while spirituality follows God’s standards. If someone were to ask me what the main cause of atheism is from my experience, my response would be that it is the hypocrisy of people who claim to be followers of God. When a person sees no difference between the way Christians conduct themselves and the way nonbelievers handle their lives, there is a compelling argument against the Christian system. The question is why this happens. The answer is that many of us who claim to be Christians are religious, but we are not spiritual. There is a huge practical difference.

Being religious involves following the accepted behavioral pattern of the religious group we are identified with. These patterns are determined by the leaders of the religious organization. It is difficult in today’s world to not hear of a religious group that is in turmoil over what is behaviorally acceptable and what is not. Everyone wants to know “what is your position on….” The focus is not on the individuals and their relationships to Christ, but rather on what the leadership of the religious organization is willing to condone and willing to condemn. This focus on organizational endorsement has sent the message to the average lay person that truth is a relative, dynamic, changing thing. The ultimate result of the acceptance of this message is that the religion has little or no effect on how the person lives. Even if lip service is paid to Christ and to the Bible by the leadership, the commitment is very diluted so that there is little effect on how people live or behave – even among the leaders.

We do not wish to imply that being spiritual is easy or that the choices that spirituality leads us to are always easily made. When an adulterous woman was brought to Jesus for judgment, He did not condone her immorality and in fact told her to “sin no more,” but His response to her accusers was to consider their own struggle with sin and focus on compassion, forgiveness, understanding, and sympathy. The Bible tells us how to be spiritual. The method involves a constant focus on attitudes and a deliberate adding of mindsets to one’s life.

“Add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; and to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness, and to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity (2 Peter 1:5-7).”

I would hope that you continue to seek out Truth and not isolate yourself from believers and followers of Christ. I would hope that in the twenty-first century, the followers of Christ would get so free of religion and so into spirituality that no atheist or skeptic could justify their belief system on the failings of those who wear the name Christian.”

Reading this article has brought such clarity and insight into my life. I don’t have to grapple anymore with the guilt I felt because I didn’t follow religion the way I was brought up to follow it. I now totally understand, and am comfortable with, what my belief system is! I am now at peace……!

Make you think, doesn’t it?

Until next time………

Lots of love, light and hugs,

Doris

Honour Your Sensitivity

Hello to all my wonderful friends!

This week has been a week that required me to dig deep within myself to change my emotional state from feelings of guilt and sadness to acceptance. Today I opened my “”Daily Guidance from your Angels” and this is the message I received…….

“You respond deeply to different energies, and you may have been confused about whether you were feeling someone else’s emotions or you own. Sometimes life seems so intense that you even try to shut down your awareness. In other words, you’re sensitive.

Today, we ask you to honour this quality as a gift to you and the world. Your acute awareness enables you to detect truth and integrity in relationships, as well as feel joy and love very deeply. Your receptiveness also helps you communicate clearly with us angels. You sense our presence and messages in your gut feelings. In addition, you take great care with other people’s emotions – you’re extra thoughtful, kind and aware.”

I’m feeling so much better now……. Thank you Doreen Virtue!

Until next time……..

Lots of love, light and hugs,

Your friend, Doris

Wellbeing Tips

Hello to all my old, current and soon to be new friends,

Just like brushing your teeth, healthy habits should be cultivated on a daily basis.

• Activity should be a daily occurrence. Walk, run or jump for a minimum total of 20 minutes a day.

• Meditate or spend a minimum of five minutes daily in quiet time.

• Find your spiritual self. Discovering what inspires you raises your level of consciousness, motivates you, and satisfies your soul.

• Exercise your brain. Read, study, solve problems, and learn new skills. As does the body, the brain atrophies with lack of use.

• Hug somebody.

Makes you think, doesn’t it?

Until next time…….

Love, light and hugs,

Doris

PS! Would love to hear from you!

Perception is Projection

Hello All,

Today I want to explain the power of perception…..

People or situations will never be any more than what you perceive them to be!

During my training for Master Coach we did an exercise demonstrating the power of this statement. I volunteered and was asked to leave the room. The remaining students were given an instruction to perceive me in a certain way. When I came back into the room I was asked to talk a bit about myself.

I began talking about my family and childhood describing the wonderful times we spent on my aunt and uncle’s farm and how I believed this was where my love of nature came from. Inexplicably, I then proceeded to describe how many members of the family had died and how many were left behind!

Going back to my love of nature I described the home I live in,  the tranquility and peace that surrounds me and how sitting on my veranda and just taking in the beauty energises me in a way that nothing else can. I also described that we have a family of frogs that sometimes take up residence in the house and we, as a family, just step over them when they hop in front of us. Even the dogs are trained to leave them alone. I again spoke about death by stating that I don’t even kill the spiders in the house – I coax them onto paper or cardboard and place them in the garden!

I found it strange that I kept talking about death until I found out what the group were told to perceive about me!

They were told to perceive that I had killed their beloved family pet!!!

Makes you think, doesn’t it!!

Until next time…..

Lots of love, light and hugs,

Doris

PS… I would really appreciate any comments and/or opinions. We can learn soooo much from each other and grow in the process from the interaction as well as gain new insights!

 

Be Inspired!

Hello Friends,

Trust you are all creating a fantastic day today!

I’ve been quiet on my blog for the last few days because I’ve been assisting on another Evolved Coaching Course which started on the 21st May and ends again on 28th. The hours are long but just soooo worth it.

It all starts off on registration. I usually stand there and look at all the new students and think to myself “They have no idea of the transformation they they will all go through before the end of the course.” I get to see their eyes sparkling, their skin colour change, their whole physiology lights up and they walk with a spring in their step!

I feel so privileged and honoured to be a part of their transformation because, not only do I get inspired but I am also continuing to learn and grow even more in the process! You see, I get the best of both worlds…..

“When you’re inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, your thoughts break their bonds; your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.”

Patanjali, ancient Indian yogi and author of the ‘Yoga Sutras’ (around 2nd Century AD)

Makes you think, doesn’t it?

Until next time…….

Lots of love, light and hugs,

Doris